Tuesday Love Letter to Black Girls and Women

Hey Lovelies, I hope you all are safe, healthy and at peace. 

This is your reminder to live your life according to what YOU value, and not to what other people value. I’ve been thinking a lot about life, and how people make life decisions based on what other people, or what society, values and expects. They go to college because that's what they’re expected to do after high school. They don’t leave that good-looking partner even though they’re unhappy because they know society views bagging someone hot as an achievement! 

They don’t realize they’ve been living their lives according to what society expects of them and equating social validation to happiness and fulfillment. This is your reminder to forget what society expects of you and places value upon, and live your life according to what YOU value. 

I know there are things you have been wanting to do but have been too afraid to do it. Either because you don’t know what people will think of you, or what they’ll say. I’m here to tell you no one cares about your life decisions as much as you do. No matter how much you think someone is talking about you or viewing you in a negative light, they are much more concerned with their own problems and fighting their own insecurities. And honestly? People who speak negatively about others are only projecting their own self-limiting and negative thoughts about themselves onto the nearest person. So don’t take what others say personally — no matter how hard it is, and trust me, I know — because they really have an issue with themselves.

So go take that chair dancing class. Go cut your hair off and go wear that crop top even though you have rolls and a tummy. The people who talk negatively about you are jealous of your bravery to live your life freely; they wish they had the mental freedom to do so.

And, as always, remember that you deserve this. You are entitled to a life that is filled with joy, peace, love and comfortability. Take charge of your happiness and go get what you want. I love you, and I want the best for you.

Love and Light,

Azé