“Romanticize Your Life”. I’ve been seeing this going around a lot lately, and, you know what that means: whenever social media gets a hold of a phrase or term, the original meaning or intention behind the word or phrase gets watered down, turned into something else entirely, or it gets attached to a very specific image that people feel like they have to replicate, which entangles them right back into the rat race of life and social media. And this is exactly what’s happening with “Romanticize Your Life”.
Whenever I see this term now, it’s usually coupled with TikToks of people going to brunch, buying themselves flowers and candles, and several other ways people have been taught to “romanticize” through social media. I’m not annoyed because people are doing these things for themselves, those are beautiful things; I’m annoyed because I think that people are being conditioned to forget their innate ability to live their lives and people are assuming that everyone has the capacity and abilities to romanticize their lives in the same ways. People are forgetting to live their lives in a way that’s authentic to them, and are instead aiming to emulate the ways other people choose to romanticize their lives. This can lead to people being more frustrated and disappointed with their lives thinking that something is missing, when in reality, everyone’s lives are different.
If someone only has the capacity and energy to shower and give their body the necessary rest they need because they have certain disabilities, chronic illness, take certain medicines, or if that’s just all they have the energy to do, then they can romanticize that shower and that rest. If someone only has the capacity to cook home cooked meals and enjoy being in their bedroom, then they can romanticize that. If someone wants to create art and order take-out, then they can romanticize that.
The point is, when you are seeing videos and tips on how to romanticize life, and you notice that things are inaccessible, people with certain disabilities, energy levels, or people who may be experiencing housing deprivation and insecurity are being excluded, or the materials and experiences that are being romanticized are out of reach, it's important for those of us may be experiencing those things to remind ourselves that whatever we do in our lives to survive, make ourselves comfortable, or that brings us joy, is ‘romantic’ enough. There is so much beauty in our day to day lives, and, for many of us, even though those luxury apartments, king sized bubble baths, bouquets of roses and brunches every week are not in reach (yet), that does not mean we don't get to romanticize our lives every step of the way to that luxury lifestyle.
I think this may have been the original meaning of romanticizing your life, at least this is what Azé and I are going with. Whatever you do in your day to day, appreciate all of it, without feeling like something is missing, that you need more materials, or need to add or be any different than what you are or have the capacity to do because of pressure from social media.
We wanted to leave you all with a few affirmations that speak to romanticizing our lives in a way that’s most aligned with our highest good.
Affirmations for Seeing the Beauty in Your Life
My life is beautiful because it is.
I enjoy living my life on my own terms.
I release any thought patterns that make me feel like my life is less than extraordinary.
I simply love my life for what it is and I simply love myself for who I am.
I find beauty, joy, peace, and love in the way that I live my life.
I love my life and appreciate it in its entirety.
I am grateful for what has led me to this point in my life.
I am excited to do what brings me joy today.
I am excited to do what makes me feel most comfortable today.
I am excited to continue creating a beautiful life for myself.
I find beauty, joy, peace, and love in the everyday activities of my life.
My life is mine to live, and I live my life how I see fit.
I am worthy of love even on the days where all I do is survive the best way I can.
I give myself love and grace in every way I possibly can.
Whatever I have the capacity to do in a day, I will enjoy it to the fullest.